How are we there? Mom and grandmother try to dress the children warmer, in a severe frost with a stroller in no case, to feed tasty food, to take them to school by car, and generally not to let one child go anywhere.
In Norway, everyone is taught from an early age to self-restraint and responsibility for their own lives and health. Nobody takes care of their child "from and to" and the parents do not shake over the child at all …
Here are some of the features of parenting in Norway that I learned about during my trip:
Feature First. There is no bad weather
Children from kindergarten are taught to be friends with the weather and to determine for themselves how to dress depending on the season. That is, it is not the mother who gives out the socks-fleece-jacket-hat, but the child himself knows when to put on rubber boots, and when a warm down jacket.
At the same time, children should spend all school breaks in any weather in the yard: rain, downpour, wind, snow - it doesn't matter. It is believed that by running, jumping and "airing the brain", the child rests, tunes in for the next lesson, hardens and stores up with health.
At school, children are taught environmental lessons. It is on them that they explain to children how to dress correctly in accordance with the weather forecast. For example, if it's minus ten outside, you need to be dressed like cabbage - in layers. The first layer is close to the body: long pants and a pullover made of fine wool or fleece. The second layer is a dress or jeans with a sweatshirt. The third layer is a warm but lightweight water-repellent jumpsuit. Plus rubberized insulated boots, waterproof mittens, a woolen helmet-hat and, if it's very cold, a hood.
Feature Second. Food
The peculiarity is that there are no "soup must be eaten for lunch" and "first-second-compote".
Hot meals are not provided in schools. Parents put cold sandwiches, pies, fruits, yoghurts for their children in plastic containers. There is one half-hour break between lessons, during which you can have a snack. Sweets are prohibited: no lemonades, sweets, cookies, chocolates. Nuts are also prohibited - to avoid allergies. All schools and kindergartens have signs: Nut free zone.
The third feature. Independence
From elementary grades, the child is going to school himself, the mother only controls.
Children go to school unaccompanied by adults. Nobody brings or picks up their children in cars, here it is generally nonsense. By the way, in addition to a weighty knapsack with books, everyone also carries a bag with lunch. For training, additional classes, etc. - also all by ourselves.
Children themselves determine their clothes according to the weather and dress, as I said above.
The fourth feature. Manic dental care
At school, students read "The Adventures of Carius and Bactus." This popular Norwegian children's book by Thorbjørn Egner tells the story of how a funny bacterium, along with a friend, caries, destroyed the teeth of a lazy boy Mark, until he began to diligently brush them. There is also a cartoon based on this book, which every Norwegian child has seen, like we once had "Well, wait a minute!"
The thing is that medical expenses here are usually covered by state insurance, but dental care is provided only until the age of 18, after that - to the dentist for their own money. Therefore, the teeth are protected from childhood - mothers begin to brush the child's teeth, as soon as the first hatch in his mouth. And they teach themselves to brush their teeth before reading. By the way, Norwegian children see sweets and chewing gum less often than hot soup for lunch, and they see it very rarely, as you understand.
The fifth feature. High fever is not a cause for panic
According to Norwegian concepts, if a child has a temperature of 38 degrees, this is not a reason to bother the doctor, and a runny nose is not a reason for missing school.For a specific list of diseases and ailments, such as migraines or colds, the doctor may write a so-called green prescription. This is an official recommendation to go for a walk in the woods. Norwegian medicine is organized according to the principle "rescuing drowning is the work of the drowning themselves." Saying that your health is failing is like admitting that you are lazy and irresponsible. I didn’t go in for sports, I didn’t get tempered, so I got sick.
Feature six. Sports are more important than textbooks
Sports training at school is given, in fact, even more attention than other lessons. Swimming in spring and autumn, skiing in winter. And hiking all year round.
In public schools, children from the age of nine go on three-day hikes with teachers, sleep in tents, make fires, and cook in a kettle. In addition, once a week a special bus takes them for a three-hour walk in the forest or mountains, walking in spring and autumn, and skiing in winter.
In addition, schoolchildren constantly participate in various marathons, charity races / swims / bike rides, transferring contributions for participation either to help starving children in Africa, or to Nepalese schoolchildren in distress from the earthquake.
By the way, sport is the only place where children are allowed to stand out. In all other respects - by no means. It is not shameful to boast only of sports successes and records, but not in any way wealth, dad's car and where he spent his holidays.
How do you like this approach to raising children?